Where oh where did all the good Men go? Why can’t any of these wonderful, Progressive and well-educated, cute women find any *good* Men? Did they die off?

No, they’re in AA. They’re at NAMI. They’re at biker bars doing fundraising for Vets, they’re getting their house in order and focusing on self-improvement. Look at their Heroes: Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, etc – these are all guys who work out and talk about their problems in public and how to do better.

Men broke under the strain of being blamed for everything, accused of everything, passed over and dismissed. A few of us tried to be “Allies” but it was an impossible burden. We had to hold ourselves in contempt. Women were Speaking, Gays were Speaking, Men were silenced.

I went to a Church council meeting (my first and probably only one). We had one elderly gentleman who loved talking about the history of the church, we had one guy taking notes and saying nothing, and we had a committee head guy who leaned back on his chair and said nothing. In fact, no one really said much of anything except in glances and smirks and disapproving glares.

I gave a presentation. It wasn’t good – I knew it was dead on arrival when I walked into the room. I’ve done 1000s of presentations – to Colgate, to the CEO of McDonalds, The entire leadership team of Tyson Chicken (John Tyson was there! Pretty cool). I’ve walked into cold rooms, hot-tempered rooms, hostile rooms and toxic rooms and was fine.

I have never been in a room like this one.

I knew I was dismissed before I said a word, but I then proceeded for 34 minutes (my pastor counted) vainly trying to convey anything and try to get any reaction, good or bad. I had a meltdown in front of everyone.

This room was soul-less. I’ve never been to a place with no soul, and in a church no less. There was no generosity of spirit, no eagerness to understand, no room for discussion, no…collaboration. It was stunning. I was a parish member in good standing, I tithed monthly, I volunteered 2-3x a week, I helped set up Easter almost by myself (no one but a few noticed.) And….I was treated like I was a problem.

The sad truth is that I *was* a problem. I was some white dude trying to help. And Progressives DO NOT WANT HELP – they do the helping around here, thank you very much.

So, if Men can’t speak up, if Men can’t help, and if Men who dare to do so are considered a *problem*….then why have a church with them in the first place? I suddenly understood why there were no new men. The only men at church were married and old, and they were there for something to do in the morning as a nice activity.

Progressives, truly to their bones, are done with Men. And most Men don’t want to stay at a place when they’re dismissed, ignored, silenced, and considered a problem. I certainly was treated as such in my years at LMC. My wife came 2-3 times, and she was immediately embraced, offered a committee position, invited to do Bells, etc. I….made myself useful by setting up tables and chairs. I hung out with the old folks. I wasn’t asked for years to join anything. I didn’t know anyone and no one ever asked me any questions. I found out what the Progressives wanted from Men – they wanted them to serve and to be silent. Clean this and fix that, but don’t bring up any problems.

Where did all the good Men go? More like, where did all the good Women go…..