It’s really hard. Working in a start-up, fear is your ally. it’s your go-to drug after coffee. It’s the benchmark for all adrenaline surges. But after a while, crises and problems melt into the background noise of the day-to-day. And you look up one day and realize that the problems are nothing to be afraid of – all failures will be weathered or all victories will be glorified. And you stand in the center, already knowing the dread or exultation that either outcome will provide.
So we have to go back to Marcus Aurelius philosophy of stoicism, which has tenets in to that state we need to accept the outcomes, whatever they may be, and that fear does nothing except crystalize our anxieties for better or worse. Once you get “tired” of being afraid, life becomes a lot like a saunter than a sprint. Well, at least for me. Also, it’s a lot easier to be blunt, honest, and humane. Getting past fear helps me be a better person, not just to the people in my company but also to my friends, family, and of course Julie.
Because what is fear? It’s the unknown. But we already, in our hearts, know what will happen with all of our lives. We will struggle, love, and pass on. Sure, there’s a few more details to be filled out, but that’s the broadstrokes.
In the meantime, let’s focus on what gives us bliss and purpose.